Fatherhood

Ok, so I know the world we live in today is kinda messed up.  Let's be honest, it really feels like it spinning out of control and that we don't know which way is up anymore.  We have lost ourselves.  I think we lost it when we started to lose the meaning of family.  Look, I'm not gonna preach about family values and the Bible or religion.  However, we have lost our sense of community and connectedness, our link to our past, of that primal need to be proud of our clan and our ability to stand up for ourselves.  We are a society of whiny, pampered, needy individuals that throw temper tantrums every time we don't get out way.  We are coddled and given nothing but ego boosts to feel better.  We are a whole society of babies constantly nurtured by our mommas.  We have lost the lessons of our fathers.


First off, I'll say this to all the "men" out there.  Some of you, not all, but some of you are not men at all.  You are not a man if you belittle, put down, assault, rape, abandon, or use women in any way shape or form.  You are a coward and a disgrace.  You are not a man if you get a woman pregnant and then get mad at her for keeping the baby.  You make it, you pay for it.  You had every opportunity to not get her pregnant including not having sex with her, and choose to not protect yourself or her and then you think that you have the right to get angry with her for keeping the baby.  You should be ashamed for that thought alone. 


Secondly, if you have kids, BE APART OF THEIR LIVES.  You had enough passion and fire to help make them, then you need to help take care of them, help raise them, and both parents, regardless, if you are married or not, whether you like each or not, your child is apart of both of you, so belittling the other parent in front of your child is like saying that half of them is not worthy of your love.  Why would you ever say that to your child?


Third, if we really want to stop bullying, we need to learn to quit crying and start standing up for ourselves.  Not with guns or unnecessary violence, but with understanding and, if need be, a fist.  Now I'm not saying or advocating everyone just punch someone when we don't like what they have to say, but there are times when a punch is called for and that once the point is made, then you walk away.  The point is not to inflict harm, but to make sure that others know that you will stand up for yourself.  Walk away when you can and punch when left with no options.  Also, can we stop making every disagreement at school or fight into a federal case.  It used to be if you got into a fight, you were punished at school and most likely grounded for a month at home.  Now you have all that and then you have to go to court, both civil and criminal, and put on a watch list.   Its overkill and unnecessary.


Fathers, we are important because we teach kids how to accept loss, to have fun, sportsmanship and competition, to be adventurous, and how to keep things simple.  These are lessons that are being lost in our day due to technology and the need for more and more and the need for instant gratification.